Month of the MilChild: Resilience During a Move
Updated: Oct 5
April is the Month of the Military Child, and many of us wear purple to show support. Military kids are remarkably brave. Most move six to nine times during their K-12 years. As a military spouse for more than 30 years and an Arlington Associate Broker with 560+ transactions, I've watched my own family and many others go through it. With the right plan, a move can build resilience.
This article is general information, not tax, legal or financial advice.
Include kids in the home search
Kids handle change better when they have a voice. Show them photos of homes you're considering, and ask what they like about a yard or neighborhood. If you're buying from a distance, let them take a virtual tour of their new bedroom. When they can picture where their bed will go, the new house feels more like home.
Plan the school move
The Interstate Compact on Educational Opportunity for Military Children helps with records, enrollment, placement and graduation when military kids change schools between member states. It doesn't guarantee every placement, so contact the new school early. Each member state has a compact commissioner, and your installation's school liaison can help.
Student 2 Student programs, run with the Military Child Education Coalition, pair new students with peers who show them around.
Gather records early: transcripts, test scores, special education plans and sports physicals.
My schools guide covers researching Northern Virginia schools from afar, and my guide to helping kids adjust has more ideas.
First box, last box
Pack a box for each child with favorite bedding, a few toys and snacks. Load it last and open it first. A familiar blanket on a new bed helps right away.
Keep your traditions
Find the local park or ice cream shop in the first week. Keep small traditions, like Friday pizza night, going wherever you live. They tell kids that the family is steady even when the scenery changes.
In Northern Virginia
Many schools here have military liaisons and welcome programs for new students. I'm glad to help you find neighborhoods that fit your kids' needs. Start with my Northern Virginia PCS guide.
Last reviewed: October 2026
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